I had a friend ask me the other day, How do I know I fallen for someone and am I addicted to them?
My response was, first, lets address the idea of Falling For Someone. This very statement has within its text, meaning. Lets take for example the act of falling. When we fall, we had to have already arrived in a place to then get some place else. So when we fall we leave the place from which you reside to another place usually not deliberately and without the normal grace and conviction that we would like. Many times this act of falling can result in discomfort and pain of some kind. Okay so are you with me so far? Good. Now, if you can believe that where u stand or where you are is where your Power resides, and that there is no other place, future or past, where that is true. Then u can better understand that to give up that place of the Now, where your power resides, and move, fall to another place would result in the loss of that power. I believe many of us would not want to be in a place where we have no power? How could we make any decisions that are of our higher choice from a place of powerlessness? I will answer that, we can not. Remember u arrived from a place of standing in your power of now, to falling to a place of powerlessness. I believe where u stand is a holy ground. Where u are is holy work. If I am no longer standing and have in fact fallen, what kind of work am I doing? I would say a better, choice, a higher choice is to 'Be' with the person of interest, not from a place of 'falling for him', but from the place of where u stand, meeting together on a common place of power for you both. Then, and only then, due I believe that the relationship will have a better chance of being what it was intended, to teach us where we are in response to the other person. Now that is another topic on which I will discuss later, why do we get into relationships with other people and what is the purpose of Relationships.
Now the second part is addicted to someone. Whenever you think of the person of interest and the absence of him/her saddens you. Then you are addict -ed to that person. Okay a little further explanation, if the memory of a person changes or alters your joy, then u have placed more importance on the other person than u should in order to maintain your joy. Now this makes sense if you believe that nothing matters more in your life than that you feel good. Which is your Natural state of being. (Just take a look at a young child). If you believe this to be true and if being addict -ed to someone is not the highest choice, the highest choice is one that allows you to maintain your joy, then choose again. Choose your Joy every time! I will end at this point and will continue if there is a need. Peace.
